How to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Children

INTELLIGENCESuppose you have tasked your child with some responsibilities, such as keeping track of some records for a business such as Vienna Tow Truck and they fail one day. What is the best way to handle the whole problem? As a parent, we want the very best for our kids. One way to ensure that our kids are the best is to instill the principles of emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the prerequisite to having a great relationship.  One of the most important things you can do to your kids is to help and teach them how to manage emotions. Emotional intelligence and the ability to manage feelings determine how happy and successful our children can be throughout their life.

If you dedicate yourself to be an emotional coach to your kids, it will have a very positive and long-lasting effect on them, helping them solve various complexities that life presents. Emotional intelligence can help your kids to be more confident, well-rounded and intelligent.

Here are ways to teach your kids to develop these skills.

 

Recognize negative emotions

As a mentor to your kids, you should recognize negative emotions as an opportunity to connect. You should use the negative emotions of your child as an opportunity to understand her better and connect. Children may have a very hard time managing and controlling their emotions. You need to stay loving, compassionate and kind to them at all times. You need to communicate empathy and understanding, so that they can start to piece together all there negativities and self-doubt.

 

Do not punish

You should not punish, scold or dismiss your child for being emotional. You need to understand that negative emotions in children are mostly age-appropriate and will gradually slow down as the child grows. You should not disregard their emotions and feelings as insignificant. Doing so sends a message that their feelings are bad. This can create a damaging perception that can stick on your child for a long time.

Help your child understand emotions

You should help your child label and understand their emotions. You should help your child put meaning to words in expressing how they feel. When a child can appropriately recognize and label their emotions, they stand a better chance of regulating themselves without feeling overwhelmed. You the right phrases that make them see you understand how they feel and you care as well.

 

Avoid judging

You should not convey judgment or any sort of frustrations. Sometimes, kids can do some things that are totally unacceptable. It can be very hard to understand the emotions behind their utterances. As a parent, the most important need you need is to sit down your child and try to understand why and how they feel. Ask questions and seek to understand first before you can be understood.

 

Set Limits

You should set limits that help your child know how to respond to different emotions in the future. Ensure that they can understand where to get alternative solutions to their worries and struggle. Kids will always yearn for autonomy and you should ensure that you gradually give them the same. Teach them that they can self-regulate themselves once faced with a tricky situation.  Accept their decisions and guide them on how to make the best decision in a pool of choices.

 

How to Raise your Kids after Divorce

childYou love your children so much but due to the unfortunate, you have fallen out of love with your spouse. Each of you has gone separate ways and the only thing keeping both of you together is your kids – It can be traumatizing I understand. But despite all of this, how do you handle the whole situation? Research has it that 80 percent of children of divorce end up coping and adapting well, without having any lasting feelings of mental problems.

The process of handling a divorce is not easy, but we have some basic rules of the thumb that can help us to keep kids happy and complete during such a time.

 

Don’t speak negatively of the other parent

One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a parent after divorce is to speak negatively of the other parent in front of your kids. This is because your kids will repeat almost everything. If you have any negative opinion about your partner, it should never be communicated in front of your kids. The relationship they will have with their kids should not be influenced by your words. Let them make such a decision on their own without pressure or duress. Avoid instigating unnecessary drama to your kids by speaking ill about the other partner.

Communicate

You need to communicate directly with your children. If you find that you have an ill-will towards your former spouse, you should speak to the partner directly. You should never use your children as middlemen whether directly or indirectly. Studies show that your children need stability as a high conflict between parents can cause an extremely harmful effect on children.

 

Don’t change things up

If you find that you and your ex can not reach a streamlined agreement on the acceptable style of parenting, you may find it as an opportune moment to start doing things all your way. If you are not wrong, there is no need to panic. Understand that your children are facing a massive period of transition in their lives that may be difficult to deal with.

You also need to do all you can to honor best practices. Use the opportunity you have to become a fun parent. Do your best to make it easy and don’t freak out. When your kids want to visit the other parent, allow them to do so without a lot of restrictions. Allow them to call the other parent without you being too hard on them.

 

 

How to help your child develop self-confidence

confidenceSelf-confidence is a very important ingredient when it comes to all the aspects of your child’s healthy development and a vital ingredient for school success. Confidence is the belief in your ability to master your behavior, body and the challenges you encounter in life. Self-confidence is very important in getting well with others and working out to solve many social challenges such as making friends, competition, and sharing. Children who are self-confident find that other person likes them and expect relationships to be fun and satisfying.

If you are looking for ways to instill self-confidence in your children, here are notable ways to go about it.

 

Establish routines with your child

You need to establish routines with your child. When events can be predicted, and if they happen in approximately the same way, same time, your child will feel confident, secure and in control. If he knows for example bath comes first, then books, then he will know what will be expected of him and he can do all that’s expected confidently. If day to day events occur randomly, it can cause a lot of anxiety for your child.

 

Create Opportunities

You should allow for and facilitate plenty of opportunities for your child to play and interact. A play is what a child uses to learn by themselves. Through play, a child can learn how to solve problems and develop confidence that is required to tackle life challenges. The play also helps a child to understand what it feels to try new roles and take responsibilities.

 

Problem-solving

Help your child learn to become a problem solver. Help them work through problems but do not always solve problems for them. The goal of this exercise is to guide and support your child solve problems by offering them a guide on what they need to know and do, and not a dictation on what they only have to do. If they are able to develop problems on their own, they will develop a sense and feeling of confidence.

 

Responsibilities

You need to give your child roles and responsibilities. If you make them feel useful and needed, makes them feel important and loved, and this builds confidence. Ensure that you give them jobs that are appropriate for their ages. You also need to celebrate your child’s success.  This means you are showing your child that you recognize how he is growing and this helps build confidence in them.

How to Protect Your Child from Peer Influences

peer pressureStarting at a very young age, children are exposed to all sorts of messages be it on movies, TV, online among other places. Kids are also exposed to all influences on messages promoting smoking, drugs, alcohol among others. Humans like to consider themselves as individuals capable of making their independent decisions without consulting anyone. They are highly prized for their ability to stand out and chat their own paths as well as creating their own style. However, underneath all these, there is a deep desire to fit in.

Not only adults want to fit in, but even small children also have the tendency to go with the flow and do pretty much what others are doing. Teen peer pressure is much real and kids have to manage it every day.

 

Managing Teen Peer Pressure

When teens are growing up, they are constantly experimenting with the concept of individuality. They may experience a severe amount of pressure to do what others are doing. Managing their peer pressure may become equally difficult and utterly impossible. However, it becomes easy when parents come in to assist.

 

Understanding your child

As a parent, you have to understand your child and all the developments they are going through. During adolescence, their brain is developing at a remarkable rate. As their brain grows, there is a specific part of their brain that regulates their decision making. When kids are faced with a lot of pressure, they are constantly engaging their brain to make decisions. As a parent, you should help your child make these decisions.

Helping your teens

teen adviceNo matter how strong your kids may appear to be, you should not let them make some decisions on their own. Irrespective of how strong they may seem to be, it is very likely that they will encounter negative teen pressure at least once. You need to guide and teach them on ways to say no.  Some good options for saying no may include them saying; my parents will kill me if I used drugs, being around drugs makes me uncomfortable, among others.

 

Advising your teen

Teens who are in recovery from alcohol or drug addiction face a lot of risks when it comes to peer pressure. In their early stages of recovery, their body and brain may still be craving for the substance. The best you can do at such a time is to avoid subjecting them to too much additional pressure. You may look for an ally to help your child find and form a relationship with another student who equally resists pressure. You may also contact a support group who can help your kid with advice and guidance.

 

Besides seeking all possible avenues to assist your teen, as a parent, you can advocate for ways of developing healthy habits as a family. Parents can help by encouraging the family to do interesting things together such as taking hikes, signing for dance classes, playing games together and performing other experimenting tasks. Parents should also seek the guidance and advice from doctors on all medication that can help teens get out of danger faster.